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Quote of the day: Dont wake a woman up in love. Let her dream, so that she does not weep when she returns to her bitter reality. (MARK TWAIN).

I KNOW some young men who are about to get married but are found to be lacking the basic principals of being in wedlock. The essential skills required to maintain a marriage are important or else it might affect the couples later in life. Identifying a partner is also crucial. If you want a wife who is good in sweeping marry a broom! If you want a wife who is good in cooking then marry a cooker. But if you want a wife for all your life to know your soul, to be your friend, then choose one who is good with threads that can mend you to the end.

If you are one of those just about to tie the knot, try to learn all the basics before marriage. Don't get hooked before you master the essential skills. Talk about marriage with your married friends. One of the ways to learn about marriage is to share your marriage experiences, fears and worries with your close friends. Your friends may first make fun of you but at least they will suggest a few tips that you will surely find helpful. Having second thoughts about getting married is normal, but if the doubts continue, listen to that inner voice.

Learn to separate beauty from love. Most young men fail to learn this fact and end up messing their marriage relationship in future. The golden rule is that seeing beauty in a woman does not mean you love her. Men tend to choose a mate based on good looks.

You can be attracted to a woman's beauty but if in your heart you don't feel the spark that attracted her to you, then it is just desire, not love. Beauty alone does not suffice marriage. One should not think that only beautiful women can be the best candidates for marriage. One of the things that make a woman a good candidate for marriage is her faith and how she masters the family values.

Marriage should be about all-round life fulfillment. Marriage is a bond of love as they say but sometimes love alone isn't enough to ensure the success of a marriage. Feelings do change but first you have to learn to be caring, unselfish and know how to please a woman before you start thinking of walking down the aisle. One of the biggest limitations in marriage is that most women don't know how to enable a man to reach them and most men are not confident enough to tell women what they need. This is why knowing how to talk is so vital.

You should understand that men and women are different and have different desires and tastes. For example men suffer fewer aches and pains than women but women remember things better than men and the discrepancy increases with age. Men should understand that for most women a man's looks are not as important as his social status and wealth. Marrying is hard work, and because women can literally seem like another species, there is a lot that even the most confident man can learn like how to deal with them in a more constructive and successful manner. If she happens to be an early morning person, and you don't wake up till noon can your relationship be saved?

Unless you are already married and well versed on the dynamics of how marriage works, this stuff wouldn't make much sense. You might be surprised to read these kinds of things, especially so when it is written in this format. My goal is not to dispute the existence of a gender gap. There's always been one, and always will be. The point is to indicate how that gap is these days and find the best way to bridge it. Try and see if these can comfort and give you some confidence and then hasten to find your perfect match.